"你是爱，是暖，是希望"–女儿高中毕业之际
大女儿马上高中毕业，感慨甚多，今天有空写几句。
女儿出生在UCLA， 那时我们刚到加州，是人生的低点，女儿的出生如林徽因所诗"你是爱，是暖，是希望"，也是我们的快乐。快乐过后，我们每天都得为生活，前途奔波，尤其前三年，对她疏于照顾，至今依感内疚。三岁半之前她很少说话，能说完整句子的时候更少，当时她很喜欢看香港连续剧，其中"Yes, sir"那句台词不知说了多少遍，可每次都说成"啊，sir".，我们曾一度想带她去看医生。后来随着我们时间充裕，跟她玩耍的时间增多，也带她去参加各种活动，她性格逐渐开朗，话语增多而准确。
在学前的时候，我们把她送到周围最好一家私立学校，刚开始好像还行，慢慢就感觉她不快乐，每天认真做作业外，很少说话，问她原因，常常流泪说同学欺负她。又过段时间还没改善，到学校找老师询问，交谈中感到老师不怎么喜欢她，而且把她安排在课堂的最后一个位置。那时，我们觉得，小孩即使学业好，但不快乐，也就失去了在私立学校的意义，于是就把她转到了我们所在城市公立学校。很多年过去了，女儿依然记得那时老师和同学之mean。转到公立学校以后，女儿交了很多朋友，终于又快乐起来。
女儿不是那种很聪明的人，但学习很用功，也很努力。她二年级的时候，水平已经达到四年级，学校建议她跳级，但我们知道，这只是努力的结果，拒绝了学校跳级的建议。这样的话，她就有更多时间进行课外活动，跟人交往。小孩人生除了功课，应该还有更多。
从初中开始，女儿做了大量的义工，她尤其喜欢帮助刚从中国转来的学生，帮助他们融入课堂，融入社会，这也培养了自己的爱心，她觉得在别人困难的时候帮助他们，是一种快乐。她的中文很流利，除了跟我们学，更主要是跟这些不会讲英文的学生学的，她没有上过中文班，AP中文考了满分，SAT II 中文考770分(满分800)，我们都惊讶她能考770分，但一查却是中下水平，40%的人都考满分，只能自叹中国人的孩子真厉害！
到高中以后，尤其修有AP课，有SAT考试，学业的繁重不亚于我们当年在国内读高中，每天夜里都要到一两点才睡，家长只能干着急，女儿却很乐观，常常叫我们不用着急，尤其是她从未停止课外和义工活动，如何安排时间对她来说也是一种锻炼。她乐观开朗，善于跟人打交道，交朋友，是学校辩论队，Mark trial和几个其他club的主力。她曾经参加狮子会的演讲比赛，并进入决赛，得奖500美金，这确实让我们高兴了一阵子，要知道这孩子三岁半以前还不怎么会说话。高中四年下来，虽然女儿走过一些弯路，但她都能合理的安排时间，逐渐养成了独立负责任的个性。真为她高兴！
人生有很多重要选择，高中毕业选大学应该算之一，由于她的努力，有几个排名十几，二十几的学校录取了她，最后她决定在一小滕，公立第一名UCB和一排名靠前的文科学院选择。经过五天的分析, 她毫不犹豫的选择了UCB加大伯克莱分校。我们虽然没参与她的选择，但是我们也确实为她的选择高兴。人们常说私立和文科大学的小班好，我不这样认为，大学,不管公立私立,需要的是授人以渔，不是授人以鱼，更不需要保姆式的教育。学习是终身的事，想想我们自己中学在理科班，文科和天文地理的知识是那么的贫乏，这么多年的活到老学到老，现在这方面知识也不会比学文科的差多少。其实她选择哪一所学校都可以，只要她高兴快乐，我们也就自然快乐。
人们常说自己的后代是自己生命的延续，因此后代们承载了太多的期望和压力。其实我觉得后代跟自己更是一种缘分，我更希望他们生活在乐土上，不要像我们的上辈，有太多的苦难，也不要像我们有太多的压力，但愿他们永远是人间的四月天！
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2024-01-12 08:56:44--
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I really like this Bluetooth headset. It's comfortable to wear. My ears don't hurt. The sound quality is very clear. I love the small charging box! Two earphones can be used alone or together. I really like them,
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2024-01-12 08:52:59--
Incredible ear pods, they look exactly like the originals in every way.
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2024-01-12 08:51:03--
The purple on the shoe is supposed to be suede but itamp;apos;s not. Whatever material that was used looks FAKE plastic.
2024-01-12 08:50:36--
Horrible quality glue everywhere and they messed up the date on the sole it’s half way cutoff then they gave me the runaround for a refund so I’m stuck with this bad quality shoe
2024-01-12 08:50:29--
Unsatisfied
2024-01-12 08:49:58--
Low quality workmanship. Exposed glue at the heel, and cheap looking patent.
Arrived fairly quickly.
2024-01-12 08:49:19--
Qualiteacute; is correct . At the height of the price. Take your usual size
2024-01-12 08:49:05--
Ordered two pairs one for me and one for my partner. Mine are amazing partners turned up in the wrong size to what I ordered
Happy with the quality of them unhappy about the sizing
2024-01-12 08:48:04--
very good quality
2024-01-12 08:45:58--
Excellent! Will purchase more items! Great service!
2024-01-12 08:45:43--
Great shoe has grip on the court would definitely reccomend
2024-01-04 19:05:18--
Received these yesterday and they are exactly as advertised. Very happy.
2024-01-04 19:04:34--
shoes are perfect, I live in Atlanta ga and they came in about a month .Definitely worth the wait
2024-01-04 19:04:11--
they are a very well made quality and comfort shoe ill be buying more in the future thanks you . good quality n price .
2024-01-04 19:00:56--
Like on the photo.
2024-01-04 19:00:42--
Satisfied‼ ️
2024-01-04 18:59:54--
Very good quality at the top !!
2024-01-04 18:54:15--
You get what you pay for the price.
2024-01-04 18:54:04--
Shoe is pretty good but shipping took almost 4 months to the US.
2024-01-04 18:52:20--
WILL CONTINUE TO PURCHASE. GREAT TIMING AND QUALITY
2024-01-04 18:52:11--
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2024-01-04 18:48:43--
the shoe is exactly like the original
2024-01-04 18:47:31--
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2024-01-04 18:44:02--
Great item, fits true to size!
2024-01-04 18:43:58--
Shoes came perfect and they got great
2024-01-04 18:43:15--
Took forever to come in but that’s on me because I ordered these shoes to come in during a bad time. Other than that great quality.
2024-01-04 18:38:19--
I received it, I really like it
2024-01-04 18:36:59--
Looks great. Can't wait to buy more
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Took longer than expected, but I love em
2024-01-04 09:23:10--
great presentation i love them
2024-01-04 09:13:01--
Solid shoe. The nubs on the bottom are like plastic and are loud on hard surfaces and are also not as squishy as the real. From the exterior they look identical besides missing nine logo on the inside ankle.
2024-01-04 09:04:16--
I am a loyal customer, I am very satisfied with the products of the merchant, and the logistics is fast
2024-01-04 09:00:33--
The sound quality is very good and it's comfortable to wear.
2024-01-04 08:59:09--
Very good, with excellent quality and high appearance?, Recommended recommendations
2024-01-04 00:04:28--
Kinda plasticy, not sure of durability.
2024-01-04 00:03:32--
Love the wallet but it has a weird plastic smell.
2024-01-04 00:01:02--
10/10 Would buy again. Great quality. Has a slight chemical smell but I put it in a bag with dryer sheets and it does not smell anymore.
2024-01-04 00:00:11--
High quality
2024-01-03 23:58:51--
Quality is great!!!!
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Excellent product and seller!
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Great bag hardware looks good for the price
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Love it! Looks so good! Slight smell shipping wasn’t to long of wait
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Very nice bag, no issues with it so I’m happy! Shipping did take 2 months
2024-01-03 23:53:52--
fast shipping, received in 2 weeks once shipped, no smell, excellent quality
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2024-01-03 23:52:53--
Excellent shipping time only two weeks and the bag looks amazing I highly recommend this seller for the perfect bag and price!
2024-01-03 23:52:05--
Bag arrived in good condition, took a little less than a month. No box, but it did come in two plastic bags and a duster bag. Overall it looks really nice and I’m very satisfied with it!
2024-01-03 23:50:49--
Literally sooooo cute! My favorite purse to date! Ordered several more.
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I love this purse and the seller is excellent!!! My original package was damaged in shipping and couldn’t be delivered so the seller replaced it right away. I am very happy with this purchase. Thank you so much!!!
2024-01-03 23:28:43--
The bracket was nice but was small then expected. I bought it for my wife but ended up needing to give it to my 13 teen year old daughter.
2024-01-03 23:28:39--
They’re exactly like the original. My silver bracelet had a little bit of glue on the outside which I can’t get off but overall not too upset about it. Love that they come with the red C bag and the little screwdriver to open up the bracelet.
2024-01-01 00:50:49--
Amazing item with box bag and papers too . Would make a gorgeous gift . Will definitely be back for the other colours
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Super nice quality
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Average quality
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it's nice but too small for my husband. I will just wear it
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